Dating mormon updating gatherer
In what way would intimacy and “fellowship” be compromised if your mate is unsaved?
Will God bless you if you place a person in front of your relationship with Him?
Ask her for a couple hours of uninterrupted time where you and she can sit down and discuss these matters, apart from the presence of her LDS boyfriend or Mormon friends.
Let her know that at this meeting, you desire to hear her side of the issue, not what her boyfriend thinks, but what she thinks.
Thus, we recommend an approach that incorporates an attitude of mutual respect between parent and young adult, with the goal of stimulating and sharpening the young adult’s critical thinking and decision making skills that will help solicit a positive response in the teenage/young adult child.
When parents see their children heading in a direction that could have devastating affects, it is easy for the protective parental instinct to engage with a desire to “rescue” the child—regardless of whether the child is of age and capable of making life-choices.
If your daughter feels emotionally close to you and is confident in your respect of her decisions as a young adult, it will be much more difficult for her to discount your views against what she is being told by her LDS (Mormon) boyfriend and his collogues in Mormonism.
However, if your daughter feels like you do not trust her ability to run her life and make her own decisions, she may view your opposition to her dating relationship as a challenge to her autonomy and may rebel further by reacting negatively to everything you suggest.
Thus, we recommend that the best way to approach your daughter in this situation is to emphasize that while you have “concerns” about her choice to date this Mormon man, you will always love her as your daughter, no matter what choice she makes in regard to this relationship.
Let her know that you recognize that she is “of age” to make her own decisions for life and that she is responsible to embrace the life-long consequences of her actions.